Gay -- Straight -- Bisexual -- Intersex -- Transgender Men

 "New points of view are not as a rule discovered in territory that is already known, but in out-of-the-way places that may even be avoided because of their bad name."  --  C.G. Jung, Synchronicity                                       

Within my body are all the sacred places of the world, and the most profound pilgrimage I can ever make is within my own body."         
                                                       --  Saraha, 9th century Common Era

TRANSITION     A transition is often a time of confusion, isolation, loneliness, disorientation, and feeling unsafe and out of balance.  It's like wandering without a sense of direction.  It can be an uncomfortable and frustrating time in a man's life.  Often it occurs in mid-life when you turn 40 years old, and sometimes it occurs much later in life.  It's a time when you decide to re-assess your belief system, your self-image, your relationships, your sexuality and attractions, the dreams you have held for yourself.  It's a time when you reassess what is working in your best interests and what is not.  It's a perfect time to prepare for some shifts. 

It is a time of transition. This time can be emotionally draining, but the good news is that you don't have to go through them alone.  That's my purpose as a Somatic Coach.  I provide a safe context in which to explore the issues that you want to focus on.

SOMATIC COACHING      Somatic Coaching is body-centered coaching. Somatic Coaching uses the wisdom of your bodily senses (sensibility) in combination with our mental ability to analyze.  We gain an organic sensibility in aiding us in making life decisions.  When we use our bodies mindfully, we shift our perspectives and begin to gradually re-shape our lives.  I work with men who want to embody their sexual energy aka life-force energy mindfully and passionately.

        We have a craving to be whole.  Many men, whether they identify as straight, gay or bisexual, or transgender, struggle to find ways to achieve that wholeness. We're all trained in certain ways to fit a mold of what it means to be  masculine.  It has not been beneficial for any of us. Some of us turn to drugs, sex, relationships, careers, competition, machismo, shopping, sarcasm without success in filling the inner void of loneliness, intimacy, trust, self-love.  Yet the stereotypes of what it means to be a  man  more often than not limit our desires for authenticity, integrity, inner peace.  When we strive to live up to the standards or stereotypes about masculinity, we often are deprived of our unique personalities, dreams, hopes.  We do our best to  fit in  instead.
       
       Boys are trained to keep it in -- shallow breathing in the chest (versus the belly), suppressed feelings (except for anger), and in adolescence pelvic orgasms (quickly and never feel a full body orgasm), silent withholding (don't make a sound).  As adult men we bring those behaviors and beliefs with us and can get stuck in them.  Bad habits are hard to break.  They limit our ability to be free and authentic.  They become a block to receiving pleasures...and affect our relationships with others.     

      As a result, emotional armoring is formed around our bodies, feelings are stuffed, even parts of our bodies can become numb, shame & guilt settles in, and our bodies become locked down...till we decide we need to live differently. We can only live holistically...when we live embodied. We can only live embodied if we breath fully, give voice to our needs and wants, move with flexibility in our world.

     I create a safe space for you to enter this time of transition, to identify and ask for what you need, to experience trust, to be heard and seen, to receive and not simply give, to explore your self-awareness in and through your body.  No judgments.  By learning to use self-touch, sound, movement, and breathing you release the bands of armor and shift the way you are living.  Options are recognized, possibilities created.

                          
       A SESSION is coaching around your intentions and clarifying what you desire. Together we explore your limiting beliefs and change them to empowering beliefs.  I work with you using your breath, voice, movement to enliven your bodily senses in light of the intention you have formed with the new belief.  I use a massage table as well as exercises to help you tap into your bodily senses either fully clothed, partially clothed, or completely naked.

Our first session is 90 minutes in length.  The following weekly sessions are ordinarily 1 hour but can be extended.  There are assignments to be completed at home between our sessions together.  Sessions are scheduled from 8 am to 8 pm weekdays and weekends.  (See  Bio & Rates page)

Learn to be fully embodied your sexuality mindfully and passionately.  Live your life simply being who you are!

Ken Stofft, MA, CSB         Ken@transitionpower.com         510-409-3318

"We get stuck on our paths because we are unable to reimagine our lives differently from what they are right now.  We hold on desperately to the status quo, afraid that if we let go, we will be swept away by the torrential undercurrents of our emptiness.  ..The most important thing in the world is to be willing to give up who you are for who you might become."  -- Marc Gafni

"Authenticity is a function of embodiment." --  Edward W. Maupin

"If you bring forth what is within you, what you bring forth will save you. If you do not bring forth what is within you, what is not brought forth will destroy you."
                                                          -- Gnostic Gospel of St. Thomas

"It takes courage to push yourself to places that you have never been before...to test your limits...to break through barriers.  And the day came when the risk to remain tight inside the bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom."
                                                                                       --  Anais Nin