"Within my body are all the sacred places of the world, and                                  the most profound pilgrimage I can ever make is within                                      my own body."                             --  Saraha, 9th century Common Era


Are you interested in embodying your life more fully, authentically, freely?  Would a 'coach' be of benefit to you on your journey to living your life fully embodied?  I am a somatic coach and erotic educator, assisting men, male couples and groups to deepen their experience of embodiment.  I work with men who want to explore their sexuality, live life passionately and purposefully, embodying their sexual energy to the fullest.

As human beings we have a craving to be whole.  Many of us struggle to find a way to achieve that feeling of being whole.  Some of us make poor decisions in that search by using drugs, sex, relationships, machismo, shopping, sarcasm to fill that inner void without success.  The void can be filled by living an embodied life.  Living fully embodied means living from the inside out and using our power, our life-force, our sexual energy to discovering who we are and where our identity and passions lie.  Yet, the stereotypes get in our way.

As soon as we are born we are trained, formed, molded to fit certain expectations of our parents and other authority figures.  We are told what it means to be 'male'.  We are told we must live up to those standards, rules, expectations.  Often our own personalities, dreams, hopes are not taken into account.  We do our best to "fit in."

As a result, emotional armoring is formed around our bodies, feelings are stuffed, even parts of our bodies may become numb, our own beliefs ignored, and it all begins to boil up.  Some of us engage in addictive behaviors with alcohol and other drugs, food, sex, relationships.  We begin to lose our own sense of who we are.  Often our bodies are telling us something is wrong, but we learn how to ignore their signals and have little body-awareness.

Usually in our early 40s we begin to realize and feel an inner conflict.  For some of us this inner conflict is denied and stuffed and only boils up much later. Men in their 50s and 60s might even think it's too late to change. For others of us we find ourselves in a transition which offers us confusion, bewilderment, and hope.

As a Somatic Coach I create a safe space for you to enter these times of transition, to identify and ask for what you need, to experience trust, to be heard, to be seen, to receive and not simply give, to explore your self-awareness in and through your body.  No judgments.  I offer you gentle probing around your beliefs and provide you with emotional support to attain what you need and want.

Living in your own skin, listening to the wisdom of your body, respecting the vibrancy of your sexual energy (life-force) from within yourself all speaks to "somatic" living.  "Soma" in Greek means "the whole living body".


Most individuals accrue emotional armor in their bodies over the years.  We're trained to respond/react in certain ways and our bodies (neurological and muscular systems) get hard-wired accordingly.  Over time these bands of armor can become rigid.  And, as a result, we become limited in the directions and choices we have before us. 

For example, a man who has been taught to hold in his feelings becomes rigid and cannot freely express himself enough to get his needs met, or to express his needs, and hence might enter into relationships that are self-destructive. 

Bodywork (use of touch, sounds, movement, breathing) can help release these bands of armor and shift perspectives.  When that occurs, options open up and possibilities are recognized.  The coaching helps to clarify what happens as a result of the bodywork.

Attention + Intention = Manifestation.  Energy follows thought. What we put our attention to is where our efforts go.  I invite you to discuss your intention and what kinds of attention you want to focus upon to manifest what you want.  This clarification is crucial to our work together.  What you attend to, your focus, generates the energy.  What your intention is determines the outcome or manifestation.

Core Beliefs: Examining what core beliefs underlie our habits of action and thought is also an essential aspect of this coaching process.  Habits influence the choices we make.  These habits involve beliefs and convictions which in turn have strong feelings attached to them.  Often we hold deep beliefs grounded in values.  We act on these beliefs without questioning them.  Without even knowing whether they may or may not serve our best interests. For example, what does it mean to be a "man" in the midst of stereotypes of what it means to be gay, bisexual, straight?  Male sexuality is so much more fluid than our society is willing to admit publicly.

Our beliefs can hold us back from living a vibrant, embodied life.  Usually such beliefs are based on pain and fear....pain originating from the past and fear of the future.  To examine these beliefs can be one of the most powerfully liberating experiences.

So, the somatic coaching I offer you is a combination of bodywork (breathing, sounds, movement, touch) with verbal dialogue.

I schedule sessions from 8 am to 8 pm on a day that is convenient for us both.  I coach in person or via phone/web cam. 
See rates on page titled: "Bio & Rates".

peace,

Ken Stofft, MA
ken@transitionpower.com
703-351-7494

"We get stuck on our paths because we are unable to reimagine our lives differently from what they are right now.  We hold on desperately to the status quo, afraid that if we let go, we will be swept away by the torrential undercurrents of our emptiness.  ..The most important thing in the world is to be willing to give up who you are for who you might become."  -- Marc Gafni

"Authenticity is a function of embodiment." --  Edward W. Maupin

"If you bring forth what is within you, what you bring forth will save you. If you do not bring forth what is within you, what is not brought forth will destroy you."
                                                          -- Gnostic Gospel of St. Thomas

"It takes courage to push yourself to places that you have never been before...to test your limits...to break through barriers.  And the day came when the risk to remain tight inside the bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom."
                                                                                       --  Anais Nin