"I am a man who is authentic, loving, playful, humorous and courageous.  I create a world overflowing, safe, intimate and adventurous with people of kindred spirit using my love of all things natural."

Born in Pittsbugh, PA, I have traveled extensively through the USA and abroad.  I was raised in an alcoholic household.  My family bestowed much love, but it was not always given in productive or suitable ways.  My parents did their best with the knowledge they had, and in many ways expressed their love to us in the same manner their parents had shown them.  I swore that I would never become an alcoholic, like my father, and would do everything in my power to live a full life. 

However, the chaos of living with an alcoholic had already made its lasting impressions within me.  The emotional trauma of knowing deep inside that I was gay had its own set of wounds to heal.  After extensive graduate studies, and twenty two years in one career, I crashed.  I accepted an invitation for help. I entered into a psych hospital and received treatment.  I vowed to address my sexuality in sobriety.  It was a wild roller coaster ride for a while.

In 1996 I entered sobriety, came "out" and began to change  my life according to more authentic beliefs and values.  I became certified as an Addictions Counselor through the Northwest Indian Certification Board, and eventually went through several State certification boards, certified in hypnotherapy, certified as a Usui Reiki Master/Teacher.  I now work within the field of somatic coaching to assist a man in empowering himself joyfully.  I hold two master degrees and I am State certifed as a Sexological Bodyworker by The Institute for the Advanced Study of Human Sexuality in San Francisco, CA.

Although the usual biographical details are here, I hold several other aspects of my life as more profoundly important.  I lived in the environment of imagination and nature!  I was a child of nature from the days of picking the flowers in the "goat's field" to wondering about human anatomy of my "boy" friends, from discovering and playing with the intricacies of the use of imagination in philosophy, hypnosis, counseling to tapping into the fantastic power of the energy in our human bodies capable of re-creating new wonders of pleasure and fulfillment, from exploring the world beyond of my spirit guides to using my imagination to manifest my life in a way that feels 'complete'. 

When I was in the psych center for treatment of my alcoholic and other dysfunctional behaviors, a group of us went to a Christmas display at a local mansion held in trust by the State.  As we were walking into the expansive greenhouse, my sight was drawn to a group of vibrantly red poinsettias.  I felt like I was having a panic attack, I was taken back so deeply.  I reminded myself to breath just as deeply as my sight was taking in the overwhelming beauty of these flowers.  "Wow!"  I struggled with wondering what just happened to me. 

Unbeknownst to me, that was my first experience of giving myself permission to enjoy pleasure!  From the day forward, incrementally and more consciously, I continued to "give myself permission" to give and receive pleasure in as many ways as possible.  I had been taught by religious and societal authority figures to deny myself pleasure, to sacrifice myself, to beat up on myself.  Never did I have a mentor to guide me in the ways of receiving pleasure.  The old tape of "I'm not good enough" too often had been the guiding rule.  After many more years, I finally discovered a new rule: "pleasure is good."  "I have a birthright to it."

Imagination and all that is natural are two fundamentals of who I am, of the daemon within me, and of what I have to offer in my relationships...both pleasurable play and professional enjoyment. This underlines my personal world outlook.  I believe we are all related!  When we engage with what is natural, with our imaginations, with our spirit, giving ourselves permission to enjoy, not simply get excited,  we are alive and well. 

"Think of the pleasure zone not as a place but a process.  It's an active way of focusing your attention that centers you in the present moment, releases enormous stores of vitality and optimism, and makes whatever you're doing considerably more enjoyable."          --  Stella Resnick, "The Pleasure Zone"

Somatic Coaching Rates:    
                Initial Session - 1.5 hrs, $100
                Follow up sessions - 1 hr, $75
                ($160  2 hours)

Intensive 2.5 day series of sessions on site for $400.
Available for out of State or the country of your choice as well.

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Bodywork Rates:

1.5 hrs, $100
1 hr, $75

2 prepaid sessions of 1.5 hrs at $175 total.

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Sliding scale available based on need.

Sessions are scheduled from 8 am to 8 pm weekends and weekdays.



Ken Stofft, MA    (Oakland, CA)         
redhawk1947@gmail.com          
510-409-3318

"Our spiritual growth cannot begin if we do not accept and enjoy the embodiment of our spirit; becoming naked initiates this acceptance and enjoyment."                                                                                                     -- Barnaby Barratt

"To every natural form, rock, fruit, or flower,
Even the loose stones that cover the highway,
I gave a moral life:  I saw them feel
Or linked them to some feeling: the great mass
Lay bedded in some quickening soul, and all
That I beheld respired with inward meaning."
                            -- William Wordsworth, The Prelude