"Somatically, the 'well adjusted' individual has to be somewhat 'uptight' and insensitive – relatively unresponsive and rigidified. This 'closed down' condition of reduced somatic sensitivity occurs in top athletes as much as in those who are physically challenged. Such persons are 'out of touch' with the life-force that flows within them. Chronic anxiety... instigates psychosomatic defenses in which parts of the body literally become anaesthetized . . . Unconscious fearfulness over sexuality - for example, as a result of childhood traumas - often leads to tension and rigidity psychosomatically. Inflexibility of the pelvis and spinal column, as well as thoracic tightness - that is, a 'closing down' of the structures . . . are also common long term reactions to erotic fear and inhibitions. – Barnaby B. Barratt, Sexual Health and Erotic Freedom
"Self-doubt can block you from seeking help, dreaming, or moving. Inner attacks are at their maximum when you attempt to change and be real."
– Arnold Mindel
"When you accept responsibility for your own erotic power and pleasure, here's what happens:
* You stop expecting your partner(s) to be the source of your
* You stop pressuring them to give you things you haven't yet
learned to accept.
* You stop blaming them for not knowing what you want.
"Sexuality is a celebration of life! And surely we all deserve to experience life as a celebration. Our sexualityis with us all our life, and it is the wellspring of our sensuality -- our potential to enjoy living. It is our capacity to experience pleasure, and even joy, ecstasy and bliss. Whatever our age, whatever our hysterical condition, we all have the potential for erotic pleasure. After all, sexuality is the flow of the life-force within us, throughus, and all around us."
– Barnaby Barratt, Sexual Health & Erotic Freedom